Conflict Management - Reflection after Conflict

Questions to Ask During Conflict

Conflict can be painful.

Try taking a break and asking yourself these questions to help sort through it: 1. How did I behave? 2. What did I say? 3. How did I feel? 4. What were my thoughts? 5. What were my judgments? 6. What did I expect to have happen? 7. What was and is my goal?

8. What do I want to happen? 9. What result am I looking for?

10. Who does this person remind me of?

11. What earlier experience does this situation remind me of? 12. What old pattern did I get hooked by? 13. Why do I care? 14. What is at stake? 15. What do I need to express now? 16. What do I now need to acknowledge to myself? 17. What do I now need to say to optimally manage this conflict? 18. What do I now need to do to optimally manage this conflict? 19. What do I now need to believe (about myself and the other person) to optimally manage this conflict?

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